Saturday, May 9, 2009

绝望的爱

今早又去“吹水”,从死党哪里听了一个令人心酸又沉重的真人真事的故事:
一个朋友的朋友的丈夫,多年来受尽了病魔(kidney failure)的折腾后,终于走了。其实,病情在两年前开始恶化,常年卧病在身的人,脾气难免暴躁,可怜他的老婆在侍候他的当儿,时常还被他臭骂。听说,他在暗恋一个女孩,已经40多年了,他对她还是念念不忘。近两年来,他知道自己时日不多,竟然向太太提出一个要求:他想见那个梦中情人,接下来还做了一些不可思议的事,包括:叫太太载他去哪女人的住宅区兜一兜;在那女人常出入的地方等待她的出现;一天打几十个电话给她,要求见面,可惜打不通;骚牢朋友,要求朋友安排他们见面。
这些情节不是只在电影里才有的吗?现实生活中怎会有此等的事?可是那是千真万确的事!我看除了他的痴情,也包含了老人痴呆症吧,那就是:一直活在过去!
那班死党又有话说了,她们说 :“那女主角真幸福,会活在一个男人的心中40多年,直到死还在怀念她!”我却认为:一个没有被他拥有的爱,幸福何在?女人们不是希望在沮丧时有个肩膀来依靠吗?一个连手都没被他握过的女人,更没有安慰的拥抱,有什么幸福可言?
我相信他是带着绝望的爱离开了这个至死还看不开的人世!!请问世间情为何物?

47 comments:

feiyifan said...

这样的故事还真的不少。难为了枕边人~

小菲 said...

生在世间即有情,
无情不会生于世。

Ting said...

梦中情人和普通情人不同的是,即使爱慕,也是咫尺天涯!哈哈。。。

望阳 said...

谁的心里没点乱七八糟的爱呢?

Gemini said...

至死还看不开?
Too much, too much...!

Ching said...

I saw an obituary today in my Chinese papers. Is it the one?
I remember one of his brothers also died of kidney failure. I met the brother in hospital when my dad was admitted to hospital at that time, also due to kidney failure. The doctor referred the family members to me so that I can explain to them about the procedure of applying for haemodialysis for a government servant. Unfortunately the brother and my dad both passed away within days of each other.

May he rest in peace.

Yi Pian Yun said...

自古多情空遗恨?
Ching, I think must be the one.

Ching said...

这好像是单恋嘛?或者是单思病?也是很无可奈何的。

Unrequited love

Gemini said...

Love-sickness can kill and should be taken more seriously as a legitimate diagnosis, according to health experts.
Unrequited love can lead to a suicide attempt, and hence can be a 'killer'.
People can die from a broken heart.

Loo said...

自古多情空遗恨,此恨绵绵无绝期。

琪微 said...

完美的故事都会有一个美好的结局吗?

Ting said...

老年痴呆症常常发生在50岁以后!
Wow, 好可怕!

Ching said...

Source:Internet Compiled by : SanazM

** A Beautiful Life **

Here Are Some Tips That May Bring You A Beautiful Life!

1. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day, and while you walk, smile.

2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.

3. When you wake up in the morning complete the following statement,
“My purpose is to … today.”

4. Live with the 3 E’s … Energy, Enthusiasm, Empathy and 3 F’s … Faith, Family, Friends.

5. Spend more time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of six.

6. Dream more while you are awake.

7. Try to make at least 3 people smile each day.

8. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn, pass all your tests. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a life time.

9. Smile and laugh more. It will keep the energy vampires away.

10. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

11. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

12. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

13. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagreements.

14. Make peace with your past, so it won’t mess up the present.

15. Don’t compare your life with others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

16. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

17. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

18. Forgive everyone for everything.

19.What other people think of you is none of your business.

20. Time heals almost everything. Give time, time.

21. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

22. Your job wouldn’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

23. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

24. The best is yet to come.

25. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

26. Do the right thing!

27. Call your family often.

28. Each night before you got to bed, complete the following statements:
“I am thankful for ….” “Today I accomplished ….”

29. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.

30. Enjoy the ride. Remember this not Disney World and you certainly don’t want a fast pass. Make the most of it and enjoy the ride.

P/s; I have to honestly say that I can’t agree with all the tips. But I do practice some of them. lol

Kenneth said...

Laughter is a powerful antidote to stress, pain, and conflict.

The sound of roaring laughter is far more contagious than any cough, sniffle, or sneeze.

When laughter is shared, it binds people together and increases happiness and intimacy.

cpy said...

人是有感情的,但感情是受理智制约。

望阳 said...

在我悲伤时,在我最需要的时候,她总会微笑着敞开她的双手,给我最安慰的拥抱。。。。

Yi Pian Yun said...

Ching,
Just now i checked the obituary,heis the one.这就是望阳说的乱七八糟的爱吧,很无奈呀!我们不是当事人,岂能了解其中的奥妙?
Gemini,
love sickness can kill ? so serious ?
琪薇,feiyifan,
电影里完美的故事多没有好的结局!好像那个男主角,陷入coma之前要想见那梦中情人都不能如愿以偿。
Ting,
老人痴呆症真的好可怕哟!
Ching,Kenneth,
I also can practise a few only.I like No 6 and 9the best, i.e. dream when we are awake and smile or laugh more.我一想到那个议长连人带椅被人抬走我又笑个不停,昨天我问小瓜,会不会有一天我也连人带椅被他们抬出去?他们说:“老师,你不要把我们说成那么恐怖好吗?”哈哈哈!
cpy
对,就是感情要受理智制约,才有悲剧的发生,对吗?

Yi Pian Yun said...

望阳,
她是你的梦中情人还是真情人?哈哈!

Kenneth said...

Dream more while you are awake?
Haha, that sounds good!
You love roaming in a fantasy world, don't you?

Loo said...

明天,母亲节。
请给妈妈一个深情的拥抱!

Yi Pian Yun said...

Kenneth,
must be truela, do u notice that this land is known as "Dream land ", I am the dreamer!Is it crazy ?

Ching said...

"Dream when you are awake." I would like to interpret it this way. When you dream what you want, it can be a goal for you to try to achieve. There is an aim to work for it.

梦想成真,心想事成。

借此,祝各位伟大的妈妈,母亲节快乐!HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY to all great mums!

Kenneth said...

*** Dream On ***
by : Aerosmith

Every time I look in the mirror
All these lines on my face getting clearer
The past is gone
It went by, like dusk to dawn
Isn't that the way
Everybody's got their dues in life to pay

Yeah, I know nobody knows
where it comes and where it goes
I know it's everybody's sin
You got to lose to know how to win

Half my life's
in books' written pages
Lived and learned from fools and
from sages
You know it's true
All the feelings come back to you

Sing with me, sing for the year
Sing for the laughter, sing for the tear
Sing with me, if it's just for today
Maybe tomorrow, the good lord will take you away

Yeah, sing with me, sing for the year
sing for the laughter, sing for the tear
sing with me, if it's just for today
Maybe tomorrow, the good Lord will take you away

Dream On Dream On Dream On
Dream until your dream comes true
Dream On Dream On Dream On
Dream until your dream comes through
Dream On Dream On Dream On
Dream On Dream On
Dream On Dream On, AHHHHHHH

Sing with me, sing for the year
sing for the laughter, sing for the tear
sing with me, if it's just for today
Maybe tomorrow, the good Lord will take you away
Sing with me, sing for the year
sing for the laughter, sing for the tear
Sing with me, if it's just for today
Maybe tomorrow, the good Lord will take you away......

Yi Pian Yun said...

Kenneth,
Thank you very much 4 the song you type,the lyrics are wonderful!Ya,dream on,dream on,dream on before I get senile or before the good lord take me away, hahaha!

huiru said...

让我们为伟大的母爱致敬,
向自己的母亲真心祝福!

小韵 said...

爱情可以重新再找寻,但父母一生却只有一个,要珍惜、珍重。
在此祝愿天下父母亲「身体健康,长命百岁」。

琪微 said...

千万不要等到失去以后才会忽然想起本来是应该要珍惜的。

Ting said...

若丧失奋战的心,50岁就已经是老人。
以炽热的心前进的话,即使80岁也还是青年。

Ching's Beautiful Life, Tip No.24
: The best is yet to come, haha.

Loo said...

爱情是要碰到对的人才能长久,
爱情需要用合适的方式表达才会成功,
爱情也需要激情和创意。

小菲 said...

不要让爱你的人受到一丝一毫的伤害!
不要等到失去了,才痛不欲生!

望阳 said...

我有一颗炽热的心,
要向世界散拨我的年轻。
哈哈。。。

Kenneth said...

You've got only one life to live. Maximize every opportunity. Go out and do those things which will leave lasting memories in your mind.

Live your life to the fullest!

By my simple, humble judgement, you will never, never go senile.

cpy said...

“吹水”是联络感情、交流思想的渠道。
你说呢。。

小韵 said...

联络感情是件好事。

Ting said...

吹水? 吹牛?

Yi Pian Yun said...

谢谢大家的留言和高见。你们知道吗,每天旁晚,拖着疲劳的身子回到家后的第一件事就是打开电脑,看一看你们的留言加鼓励,有了你们这一般网友,我夫复何求?
Ting,
我好像是属于后者吧。The best is yet to come ?haha,that suppose to be a dream, right?
Loo,
爱情是可遇不可求的啊!
望阳,
好潇洒哟!
Kenneth
Are u sure i wont get senile ?Recently I tend to be forgetful, i suspect it is the symptom of getting senile,when I told my friend about it , they will reply
: "你会痴呆?“Haha,thanks 4 the compliments!
cyp,小韵,
吹水的确是联络感情和交流思想的渠道,我称它为”大炮公会“,这些吹水者叫”大炮王“

琪微 said...

人会有无聊之刻,此时便想以话解聊,他便有可能吹水了。

Ting said...

广东话的吹水就是吹牛了。
你该是“大炮公会”的member吧!

依钧 said...

吹水有助于身体健康,是一种减压的好方法。

Yi Pian Yun said...

琪薇,
“吹水”其实就是无聊的人解聊的管道,我猜每个地方都有吹水的场所让那些无聊的乐龄人士解聊,好像莫珍歪的天定河畔,每当傍晚时分,就有不少的乐龄人士在“吹水”
Ting,
我该是member吧,不过我很忙,一个星期也会去“吹”一,两次。哈哈!我们没有吹牛,闲聊罢了!

Yi Pian Yun said...

依鈞,
谢谢登入。没错,吹水确实可以解压。我们无所不谈,其乐融融也!

huiru said...

吹水/吹牛确实可以解压?
真是太奇妙了!

Catherine said...

每当傍晚时分,乐龄人士在河畔吹水!
Wow, very romantic leh ...

Yi Pian Yun said...

Huiru,
你才知道啊?有时笑道得意忘形是,什么忧愁都随之而去!
Catherine,
那天定河畔是极romantic的地方,我都想招一般人去哪里吹水呢,要参加吗?哈哈!(目前在吹水的都是男人)

望阳 said...

自从相思河畔见了你,
就象那春风吹进心窝里,
我要轻轻地告诉你,
不要把我忘记。

Catherine said...

招一般人去哪里吹水?
哈哈,别吓跑那般男人咯!

Yi Pian Yun said...

望阳,Catherine,
“相思河畔”令我回味往事!天定河畔真的很美,我每天都从我的中心偷偷地(要专心教书哦)欣赏河景(Pleas refer to my "美丽的莫珍歪”),如果我招一班人去吹水 ,不吓死那些老人家才怪,哈哈!