Tuesday, May 5, 2009

看不开?

把心中的不满写出来被指为看不开,Ching,你怎么说?我认为我们不是圣人,凡事只求问心无愧,我们自己不偷,不抢,不骗,难道可以容许别人向我们偷,抢,骗?什么叫做看开?难道别人抢了我们的东西之后,我们还要向她说: “ 很好,你干得好,我佩服你! ”这未免太虚伪了一点吧!做人已够苦了,何必再虚伪到这种地步?不要忘了我们只是一位凡夫俗子!
什么是:退一步,海阔天空?是不是给人括了一把掌,自动要求他再括你一巴掌?又或且当一只疯狗咬着你不放时,你让它咬到重伤?都伤痕累累了,还要那阔天空来干嘛?世上多了几个虚伪的人才让我们活得这么苦也!
我的blogger朋友中,有几位是精通佛理的,我很感激他们给我的激励,都鼓励我向上和向善,谢谢你们咯!我又想再问: 信佛教好还是信基督教好?老实说,还没有一个完全令我信服的宗教!好像那个女主角,是个忠诚的基督教徒,她的那种榜样,谁敢入信?佛教徒呢,君不见也有心胸狭窄到像一只疯狗咬着你不放?看了不寒而栗,信什么信?不过,表格里的宗教一栏,我还是会填上“佛教”,老伴都是填“lain-lain”的,也是不相信宗教!
说到放下,就联想到霹雳州的政局。有人说,倪家那两兄弟看不开,放不下。已失去了江山,也失去了大臣,还不快点放下?如果他们放下,又有人说那是认输,也承认了新政府。不放下,又有人说那是看不开,恋权狂,怕输!那怎么样的人才算看得开?

98 comments:

Loo said...

看得开,是一种心态的反映。
看不开,也同样是一种心态的反映。

huiru said...

看得开也好,看不开也罢,都必须去面对。

cpy said...

合法宗教都是精神寄托。

琪微 said...

信佛教好还是信基督教好?
最主要还是自己选择,宗教信仰是自由的。

望阳 said...

任何事情都要尽心尽力去完成,便問心無愧了。

Ching said...

既然大姐问我,我就以我另类的看法,写写我的感想吧,不敢说是意见,因为没希望被人看同或接受。感想是我个人的feeling, 所以不必分析,只需看看就好,OK?

看了这么多高论,我还是认为,很少人可以看开的。口里讲要看开,要放下,但多少人能真正做到?很少并不代表没有,但到目前为止,我还没遇到这种人。可能我真是井底蛙,生活圈子窄,认识的人不多。

就如在这个blog, 很多人都发表看开的言论,很多是暗示,叫ypy(可能也包括小姐在内) 要看开。从这里,就已经显示这些也是有点“看不开” 的成分, “看不开”我们的言论, “看不过”我们对别人的comments. 如果看得开,至少是不会一再的好言相劝吧,让我透不过气,觉得自己好像是很挑剔的人,信心完蛋了。(Sorry, 这就是我的另类看法) 。

如果你们常年常月,和这些所谓的被我们批评的“为人师表” 一起工作,我想你们也会有怨言的。大家只是在blog看了我们的发牢骚,但根本不真正了解实情,所以认为我们看不开了。我们所讲的,只是他们的一小部份事情,如果要讲,可以写一篇论文呢。当然我并不是说我们是最好的老师,但和这些人比,我们是算有良心了。至少,我不会去影响别人和我一起“偷懒” ,叫人不需要做这么多,这就是这些人时常讲的话。而且我也没犯上健忘症,时常说,“对不起,忘了要去代课,班长没来通知我” 等等。I wonder whether their god is looking at them when they do this sort of things. (The few that we mentioned, they are all Christians. I have nothing against their religion. But I look down upon people who use the religion to show that they are more superior to others. One even said, “I am a Xtian, I don’t tell lies.”I hope the X is big enough for him to carry. Someone even said this to me, “You are single. You don’t go to church, that’s why.”Another one said to my friend, “Please tell 小姐 to believe in Jesus, only Jesus can save her. ”P/s; I am a cancer patient.)

我本身是在mission school 完成我的中学教育。每个星期,都必须上一堂 chapel. 有唱诗歌等等。但让我不苟同的,就是那些上去发表他们的言论的人,每每都贬低别人的宗教。So they can never convince me.

大姐,你认为呢?

Please don't ask me to 看开again. 江山易改,本性难移,都以活了半百的年龄,也不需要再从新学做人吧?

再次声明,另类论,别介意啊!!!lol= laugh out loud

Ching said...

Something to share with those over 50s.

Source: Internet email

Ten Commandments for Those Over Fifty Years Old*

*1*. Focus on enjoying people, not on indulging in or accumulating material things.

*2*. Plan to spend whatever you have saved.
You deserve to enjoy it and the few healthy years you have left. Travel if you can afford it. Don't leave anything for your children or loved ones to quarrel about. By leaving anything, you may even cause more trouble when you are gone.

*3*. Live in the here and now, not in the yesterdays and tomorrows. It is only today that you can handle. Yesterday is gone, tomorrow may not even happen.

*4! *. Enjoy your grandchildren (if blessed with any) but don't be their full time baby sitter. You have no moral obligation to take care of them. Don't have any guilt about refusing to baby sit anyone's kids, including your own grandkids. Your parental obligation is to your children. After you have raised them into responsible adults, your duties of child-rearing babysitting are finished. Let your children raise their own off-springs.

*5*. Accept physical weakness, sickness and other physical pains. It is a part of the aging process. Enjoy whatever your health can allow.

*6*. Enjoy what you are and what you have right now. Stop working hard for what you do not have. If you don't have them, it's probably too late.

*7*. Enjoy your life with your spouse, children, grandchildren and friends. People, who truly love you, love you for yourself, not for what you have. Anyone who loves you for what you have will just give you misery.

*8*. Forgive and accept forgiveness. Forgive yourself and others. Enjoy peace of mind and peace of soul.

*9*. Befriend death. It's a natural part of the life cycle. Don't be afraid of it. Death is the beginning of a new and better life. So, prepare yourself not for death but for a new life with the Almighty.

*10*. Be at peace with your Creator. For ... He is all you have after you leave this life. .............

Yi Pian Yun said...

Ching,
very2 well written,我与你同感,100%支持你的言论。对啊,都过半百的人了,还学做什么人?望阳说得好,凡事尽心尽力去完成,问心无愧就好!如果你是个认真的人,常年常月常日跟这些人在一起,你是清高不起来的!能教到退休而没有疯掉已算是很看开liao,还想怎样?
我们所讲的只是冰山一角,如果真的去写,好像阿武叔说的:写到后天晚上都写不完!( Can bind into a novel)
对对,他们的败笔就是破坏别人的宗教,还记得我问那个Mr,A 吗? “does your God teach you to sapu all the good ones and push all the bad ones to others ?"哈哈哈哈!

Gemini said...

Ching,

You have managed to voice your opinion very succinctly. Indeed, there are many people who use their so-called 'superior' religion to upgrade & promote themselves.

As a matter of fact, these are the people who actually need to search through their souls and see if there is any more conscience left in them.

These culprits can fool some people some of the time, but certainly they can't fool all the people all the time.

God knows what they know not.

Don't you think that their hypocritical actions may have dire consequences?

Ting said...

经历过一些磨难,或许可已改变自己的人生观,过去看不开的现在就看的很淡了。

Catherine said...

往往别人的事我们相当看的开,
自己的事就怎么也难看开,哈哈!

Jack2 said...

我门一定要懂得尊重别人,爱护别人,帮助别人,决定不能破坏,因为成就别人就是成就自己。

Loo said...

霹雳州政局未稳非好事。

cpy said...

一个人的忍耐是有限的,无限的忍耐是不可能存在的。

丽韵 said...

忍一时风平浪静,退一步海阔天空。

Ting said...

关心学生的老师真的很少了。

Ting said...

有听说过老师在上课时睡觉吗?

Jack2 said...

上课睡觉?
可能是因工作压力太大造成。

Yi Pian Yun said...

Gemini2,
Do u think God really knows what they do ?I dont think so!
Catherine,
你说的也真,有时对自己的事难看开的!
Loo,
你预测霹雳州会有何变化?
Ting,
谁说没有老师在班上睡觉?以前A中有个老师,每次空节就在办公室睡觉,空节过了还在睡。学生来叫他时,他会说: “来啦,来啦!”学生一走,他又睡啦,哈哈哈!一个死党同事叫我去看他有流口水吗le。奇怪他都没事的,如果换着是我,zha du si lo !关心学生的老师真的越来越少了。
cpy,
忍耐确实有限,人说佛都有火。
Jack2,
工作压力大?哈哈哈!as if you are not in the profession ?

Ching said...

Gemini

Thanks for your comment. I think these people do not regard conscience as something worthy. Otherwise, why would they behave like that?

Jack2
我们并不是在破坏。我们在说实情,it is the fact. 如果无中生有,那才是破坏,不是吗?

当一个人对你讲“你活的很痛苦” 时,你还谢谢她,让你知道。这算不算尊重别人?

当一个人对你讲,“你知道吗,学生说你很凶?” “你们Girl Guides camping时,要坐在地上,要在户外煮东西,like very dirty. I can’t do this sort of things” 时,你需要尊重她吗?如果你说是,那你的确很伟大噢!

其实如大姐说的,我们所写在这里的,只是冰山的一角,那些藏在水里的部份,是更恐怖的,也不便在这里透露。如果我们要破坏,早已写出来了。我们所知道的,除了亲眼目睹,亲身体验,也有是从小瓜们和家长方面所得来的实情。但却因为很多人mak jiu ho sai goh liao,和当了ostrich, 所以这些 problems 都看不到,也让这些 clowns 更加得逞。

Yi Pian Yun said...

教书确实是良心的工作,虽然那些clown以为所作所为不为人知,哼,这一却都被小瓜们和家长们看得一清二楚!他们还不是在外面批评这些clown ?

Gemini said...

I really cringe in embarrassment whenever those immoral & despicable teachers open their filthy mouths to say something. They are good in complaining, but at the same time shirking their responsibility as teachers. Yes, to them, conscience means nothing, is worth not even a sen!
What a damn shame!
They are the real Black Sheep in the teaching profession.

小韵 said...

身为教师必须具有一颗正直之心,诚信之心,善良之心,感恩之心,豁达之心和敬业之心,唯其如此,才能称之为有良心。

望阳 said...

一个教师如果失去了诚信之心,就愧对“为人师表”四个字。

cpy said...

老师的幸福和快乐是与学生紧密联系在一起的。
学生的成长,成才是老师们最大的快乐,最大的幸福。

Ting said...

看人的时候,不能只看一面,要看全面;
不看一时,而要长时间观察;
不能只看一件事,而要多看几件事;
不可轻易对某个人下结论。

Loo said...

工作时,对得起自己,不要给自己留下遗憾,不能让自己丢脸。

cpy said...

“怕输”是一种文化吗?

Yi Pian Yun said...

Gemini,
奇怪你会那么清楚杏坛的Black Sheep ?我老公都是说: “你们做老师的最dalok。”连我也被骂进去,哈哈!
小韵,
你用来那么多心,我认为敬业乐业的心最重要,诚信的心当然也不能缺.
cpy,
我们从来没有要求回报,学生称才,当然也沾到一份喜!怕输是华人的文化吧?
Ting,对,要看全面,要长时间观察,20年够你观察吗?我和小姐的观察力超强,mak jiu 绝对不会给sai goh 的!只有mak jiu hor sai goh 的人才不会观察!
Loo,丢自己的脸是小事,丢民族的脸才大事!(丢尽黄皮肤的脸)

Loo said...

老婆是老师,可怜老公也被骂进去,哈哈!

Yi Pian Yun said...

Loo,
对呀,我有问他是不是后悔娶了一个老师的老婆?不过,我没dalok过他le。(给他训练出来的,哈哈哈!)

Loo said...

想到霹雳州的政局,许月风真的是丢了民族的
脸啊!不是吗?

Catherine said...

娶了一个这么能干的老婆,应该感到很gilek咯!

小韵 said...

男生们真的会很喜欢找老师当老婆吗?

Yi Pian Yun said...

Loo,
不知耻的人是不顾脸皮的,看那许女士,多gilek,那会觉得丢脸?今天的局势怎样了?
Catherine,
过奖啦,他在我面前都做出好像娶错妻,哼,在别人面前啊,都不知道有几gilek(这些人又传回给我听,哈哈!)
小韵,
从前是,现在我就不懂咯。记得从前,有人要娶媳妇,都要找做老师的,早上教书,下午做芭,alamak!我不会做芭,因此无人过问,还得谢谢我的父亲没迫我去嫁有芭的!

Ting said...

孟子说 :人不可以无耻,无耻之耻,无耻矣。

琪微 said...

早上教书,下午做芭,晚上侍候丈夫及看顾孩子?
够力呀!

Ting said...

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-- Malaysiakini ---

Yi Pian Yun said...

琪薇,
对呀,他们很够力的,不止照顾丈夫,孩子,连孙子也要顾,这是传统妇女的无才便是德?(老师有才!)
Ting,
我的天呀,羞耻为何物?

KM's Corner 刻骨铭心 said...

从今天的霹雳州议会的闹剧,我们便可以看到那一班怕输的夺权嘴脸,好心疼。五月七日-黑色星期四!

Yi Pian Yun said...

刻骨铭心,
我今天很忙,没时间看TV,刚才经过小贩中心,从TV的画面好像那女人手中拿着喷喷的东西,是什么来的?

Yi Pian Yun said...

Ting,cpy,Loo,
你们今天有看好戏吗?我迟到九点半才看TV7的新闻,只见议长连人带椅被逐出州议会,笑死我也!

Ting said...

那女人手中拿着喷喷的东西?
Pepper spray, haha...

望阳 said...

相似一场马戏团的州议会,简直惹人笑柄!

Yi Pian Yun said...

Ting, 望阳,
他在喷谁?我是大笑姑婆,我真的很好笑,笑他贵为议长却被人抬着出来,妈妈咪呀!哈哈哈哈!

无情 said...

男人不喜欢娶老师的啦!
有些男人是因为有童年阴影,被老师SM过。
另外一种是因为怕老师老婆在缠绵时情不自禁地喊道:“废材!要敲钟了!快点交。。。功课!”

Loo said...

这是一个黑色的马来西亚吗?

Ting said...

能娶老师做老婆应该很幸福。

cpy said...

女老师是很理性的,她知道什么是生活,怎样按排生活,怎样享受生活。

无情 said...

所以我很幸福!

Yi Pian Yun said...

无情,
哈哈哈!你说的也真,不久前和一位同事夫妇去旅行,那为夫者,一提到那做老师的老婆,一直猛摇头(在shopping 时),他问我:为何你和他们不同wor?哈哈哈!我看我的性格是由老公train出来的,我从来没有叫他交功课,反而是他问我功课做了没有?你知道幸福就好咯!
Ting,cpy,
未必所有的老师是理性的吧。老师很会安排生活就真。
Loo,
我刚从吧刹“八卦”回来,许女士说: “希望对方做事凭良心就好!”(中国报A2) 喂,什么是良心?我看了议长被抬出的照片,有笑多一次。最无辜的是那些没参与行动而被抓的穿黑衣者。有个去晨运的老翁被抓得不明不白,他说他有没穿黑衣,不明白为何抓他!

琪微 said...

女老师下得了厨房,上得了厅堂。

KM's Corner 刻骨铭心 said...
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无情 said...

你今天不用上班咩?
还可以去逛街收情报?
都说娶老师最幸福咯!

KM's Corner 刻骨铭心 said...

Yi Pian Yun,
那是胡椒喷(pepper spray),是从"当今大马"阅读到的.
她还将人家给她的1令吉撕成碎片,丢在地上.还命令把原任议长给赶出议会!

Yi Pian Yun said...

琪薇,
对,老师很会煮和做糕点,饼干,只可惜我是个异数,什么都不会,难怪他说早知道娶一个印度婆还好,haha!(他喜欢吃curry)不过,我只会煮“薄饼” 和红糟面线,也绑了他的胃18年之久!
无情,
每个拜五早上是八卦时光,没上班,下午就得去受难!

Yi Pian Yun said...

刻骨铭心,
好勇敢的女人,都说咯,不能得罪女人的!

无情 said...

18年就只是吃你的薄饼和红糟面线?
好羡慕你的达令哦!
好虽好,可是接下来的另外18年你也打算让他继续吃你拿手的薄饼和红糟面线啊?
小心他跑去隔壁吃PIZZA哦!!

Yi Pian Yun said...

无情,
他已上了天堂,每逢清明还有煮给他吃,不知有吃到吗.

小菲 said...

KM's Corner,

是50令吉, 不是1令吉。 你没看TV咩?
人家现在是multi-millionaire啦!
What's 50 ringgit lah !!!!
撕成碎片?
Sap sap the water mah....
RM10,000,000 - RM50 = ???????

Yi Pian Yun said...

小菲,
你又发现吗,她好像比以前美丽了,有钱真是好!

Catherine said...

乘车离开政府大厦时,许月凤用纸张遮脸.
你觉得她很dalok吗?

Yi Pian Yun said...

当然dalok啦,要不为何要遮脸?我还是认为连人带椅被抬出去最好笑,我还在笑呢!不是只有残障的老人家才被人抬着走的吗?哇哈哈!

huiru said...

议长真可怜。
你却在一旁辛灾乐祸!

望阳 said...

有钱真是好!
但如今这年头,赚钱可真是好难呀!

泳冰 said...

男人娶到老师做老婆,一定要加倍珍惜.
不能因为对方的善良以为有机可趁放松自己.
你说是不是?

琪微 said...

珍惜今天的幸福生活。

cpy said...

我们应鼓励人们维护残障人的尊严,保障其权利和幸福.

Yi Pian Yun said...

Huiru,
不是我幸灾乐祸啊,我天生爱笑,那是一场闹剧,很好笑的闹剧呀!
望阳,
钱确实难赚咯,我刚带着满肚子的气回来!如果有人出我半百万,你说我会出卖尊严吗?
泳冰,琪薇,
对,男人们应该珍惜他们所拥有的,不过做老师的都是很凶的,老公岂敢放松?
cpy,
这次贱障人士也被那女士连累到了.

cpy said...

以出卖尊严为代价而获得利益?
Yau mor kau chor?

Gemini said...

Ting & 刻骨铭心,

你俩都错了!
许月凤小姐说,那是Key-chain,
不是胡椒喷(pepper spray),哈哈!

Loo said...

尊严不仅是个人价值的象征,更是民族的立身之本。

Ching said...

Gemini

SHE is contradicting herself. Just now in the Chinese news, I heard she said she is holding a pen drive. She can’t even be sure what she is holding. When one tells the
1st lie, one has to use other lies after that to cover up for ones
1st lie. So finally one wouldn’t know what he/she is saying in the first place. So nauseating!!!!

Ching said...

Wow, from the news clip, I can see that she pressed the “PEN DRIVE” and pointing it to someone, maybe spraying some deodorant. Think the person she aimed at must have BAD BREATH.So in fact she is doing a good deed, making the AIR in the room smell better. lol

So now we EVEN HAVE MULTI-PURPOSE PEN DRIVE. How nice, I wonder whether there is lipstick in it. If so, I would like to have one too, pen drive cum-lipstick, perfume spray and air freshener, so convenient lah. But dunno whether I can afford it or not. lol

huiru said...

尊严像一层贴在脸上的make-up,一样容易脱落,
不是吗?问问YB Hee吧!

Yi Pian Yun said...

cpy,Loo,
wo mou kau chor,的确有人为了利益而出卖尊严的。
Gemini,Ching,
又有一只死乌鸦飞走了(我用来骂烂瓜的一句话),她明明在喷喷,key chain or pendrive 怎能喷?

Yi Pian Yun said...

昨天的那场戏剧包含了虚伪,野蛮,无知,出卖尊严。。。,ching,还有什么?

KM's Corner 刻骨铭心 said...

一片云,
那"岁月凤云"变得"猪"圆玉润了,她的pen drive可能是猪油雾吧!用了几千块定制的吧,反正她大把水...!应该是好吃好住..怪不得那区区的50块那看得上? 不过将它撕碎未免太过分了吧。不如用来服务她的选民?不过应该没人要吧...???

Gemini said...

Hee is a dirty and filthy politician. Hence, she needs to bring along with her some deodorant.

Ching said...

大姐,我也不知还有什么形容词可用。总之,我看了那个蛙蛙,我就想吐。
The media say that was a circus, so right, and these people were all clowns.

Yi Pian Yun said...

Ching,
真是没眼看!霹雳州红起来liao,我们身为霹雳的子民,应该gilek 吗?

Yi Pian Yun said...

刻骨铭心,
谁还敢要她的钱,已是一只过街老鼠!做人做到这种地步,还有何意义呢?

Ching said...

神狰鬼厌,遗臭万年

Ting said...

老鼠过街,人人喊打,哈哈!

huiru said...

我不是霹雳人,但是我深感痛心。

淑芸 said...

许月凤形容507的风波是一场“恶梦”。
你相信吗?

Yi Pian Yun said...

大家看了今天的报导没有?简直是恶人先告状!

Yi Pian Yun said...

Ting,Huiru,淑芸,
过街老鼠还gilek到要命呖!你们深感痛心,我们霹雳子民深感蒙羞!507 风波是霹雳子民的恶梦,是她的梦想成真!

cpy said...

许月凤说 :他们说的各种东西,我没有兴趣回应,因为大家有眼晴看!
你怎么说?

Yi Pian Yun said...

cpy,
这些政混,除了把人民当白痴,现在更把人民当瞎子,还是她自己瞎子说梦话?

Loo said...

许月凤是被民联州议员攻击的受害者,背部与肩膀都在混乱中受伤。
好可怜!

望阳 said...

哈哈哈!一針見血呢!

Yi Pian Yun said...

哈哈哈,那么喷姚天和眼睛的胡椒粉源自何处?(她说她拿的是pendrive)都说咯,会做戏的人是聪明人,这些看戏的人才是傻瓜(我父亲曾说过的一句话)

Kenneth said...

If you tell the truth, you remember for life!
If you lie, you have to create 1001 lies to cover ONE.
You can cheat your own conscience and lie to the whole world, GOD knows.
GOD spares no evils! The truth will prevail! Justice will be served!
Evils will subject to eternity of God’s retribution!

Yi Pian Yun said...

Kenneth,
Thanks for your comment, what u comment is really true, who will believe her if she keeps on telling lies ?
Really miss your song lyrics, haha!

无情 said...

其实许月凤也很可怜。
她有没有收了人家的钱我不清楚,可是我肯定她这几天一定夜夜发噩梦!
你以为她不怕变成第二个蒙古女郎咩?
当她没有被利用的价值时,有谁可以保证她的安全?
马来人的降头很厉害的。
我这里有个马来议员因为霸了一块靠近回教堂的地段建了一座皇宫,结果竟然住不到几天就飞天了。
还记得那个老查吗?无端端也飞天了。
还是不要得罪人比较好。
人心难防。

Yi Pian Yun said...

无情,
对,人心最难防,不过像许女士的那种气(?) 的作风,她那里会怕?今天邓章钦都劝她 “苦海无边,回头是岸”!

S.A.N.G said...

我昨天是无情,今天多情!哈哈哈。
但绝对不会像那位许女士那么绝情!